Saturday, September 26, 2009

Well, now Grace has gone from biting to pulling hair. She has pulled Michael's hair a couple times. He has done it back once, but it didn't stop her yet. Last night they were wrestling before bed. I think she's really going to be tough. Michael couldn't decide if he should cry or laugh because she was on top of him. I've never seen him as a wimp, but I think he has been told so many times to be gentle with Grace that he doesn't know what to do when she "beats up" on him.

We have been having a hard time making it through bed time prayers lately. Since we put them in the same room we have been reading a story before bed. This in itself has been a challenge because Grace won't still that long. But, we figure eventually she'll get the hang of it. Then after we read we say bedtime prayers. Usually Paul says them and Michael repeats him. The last few nights though as soon as Paul starts, Grace starts laughing. So, of course, that starts a chain reaction and Michael starts laughing too. Paul tried to tell him last night it is not time to play and that he needs to be quiet and that Grace has to learn to be quiet too and she will learn from him. It at least helped get through that prayer. We'll see how tonight goes.

Thursday Barb, my pastor's wife, stopped by to drop off some Patch the Pirate cd's. She asked me if I had anyone to watch the kids on Friday while I went to my midwife's appointment. I said no, I hadn't called another lady yet. She told me to drop them off at her house and then leave them for the afternoon. It was so great that someone not only offered to watch the kids sometime, but said to drop them off for the afternoon and actually set it up. So I dropped them off around 10 and went to my appointment. Everything went well. The baby is growing big. They are estimating about 4 1/2 - 5 lbs right now, which is a little big. So, my thoughts are it's a boy. Anyway, then I went to see Paul while he was on lunch. I left there and grabbed something to eat, went to a second hand store to check on a pack 'n' play, then went to get blood drawn. Then I decided to go home. I came home and laid down for about 15-20 minutes then got back up and cleaned. I got so much done! I swept all 3 bedrooms, shampooed the baby's room, dusted everything upstairs, changed sheets on all 3 beds, cleaned both bathrooms, washed diapers, and shampooed a little in our room (basically to get rid of the cleaner already mixed). Paul came home while I was finishing so I sent him to get the kids so I could take a shower. I finished what I was doing, got my shower, got ready and still had to wait for him. I knew he would get to talking with Pastor and Barb. :-) So I finally called to see where they were and they were just pulling in the drive. We had planned to use some coupons and go out to eat, but when they got back, Paul asked if we could change plans. So, we went to Dion's (a pizza and sub place) with Pastor & Barb and their kids. We had a good evening with them. The kids did very well at their house and even took their naps good. It was nice for me to not have them around for a little while. I was able to relax even though I wasn't laying down the whole time. I really felt good about getting things accomplished too. Now if only the downstairs would clean itself! Paul did have the kids help him pick up all the toys tonight while I cleaned up after supper. So at least everything is picked up!

We walked down to the playground near our house tonight. The kids had so much fun going on the slide, swinging and of course climbing on everything. Michael is getting so good about being able to climb up the "rock wall", the "swirly thing" and all that stuff. The only injury was Michael falling out of the swing. He was swinging in a big swing and kept leaning forward. Paul told him he was going to fall out if he kept leaning forward and he finally did. He still had a hold of the chains so he just scraped his knees a little. He was fine a few minutes later and was back to climbing. Grace didn't want to get out of the stroller when we got home. She kept trying to get back into it!

Well, Grace is done in the bath tub so I've got to go get her.

Tuesday, September 22, 2009

A morning with 2 little ones

So, Paul got the laptop working so I was drinking my coffee and trying to have some down time this morning while the kids were playing. They were playing fine until they saw that I was sitting down and had the computer on. So, Grace thinks she has to be on my lap if I'm sitting and not just sitting, she has to climb all over. I finally got them coloring so that helped. Then Michael wanted to watch some t.v. I figured since he hadn't watched any this morning it would be fine and Clifford was on. So he was watching it and I finally got Grace to go down with him. I guess not a good idea. She decided to keep turning the t.v. off. So this results in Michael yelling at her to turn it back on and her yelling at him "no" (her favorite word lately). So, I told Michael just to turn it back on. At one point I guess he was trying to turn it on and she was trying to keep him from it. They were both screaming and as I walked to where I could see them Michael starts crying. I see they are entwined together and going to the floor. Michael is holding his back and crying hard. I ask him what happened and he told me Grace bit him. I look on his back and sure enough there's a mark. This is the second time in 2 weeks that he has been bitten (and by a girl). He never went through a biting phase and I hope he doesn't start now, but I also don't know what to do with Grace since I haven't dealt with this before. Hopefully, this will just be a one time thing. I think she was just defending herself, but she better find a better way to do that or she's going to be in lots of trouble.

Saturday, September 19, 2009

My wonderful husband and annoying neighbors

I just got done having a free pedicure by my husband! I never would have thought he would paint my toe nails!! Sure he massages my feet for me every once in a while, but painting my nails...I just never imagined. I had asked him this morning if he would take the polish off while the kids were down for naps. I am having a hard time reaching my feet at the moment so I figured he would maybe do that for me. He said he would. I said I wouldn't ask him to paint them though. He said as long as he could watch football while he was doing it he would paint them too. He did an awesome job! I chose a light color just in case, but I probably could have gone with a darker color and would have been fine. Thank you, Paul!

We have neighbors though that decided to practice their music (garage band) right as we put the kids down for a nap. Grace finally went to sleep, but Michael never did. He did stay in his bed and was quiet so I thought he was asleep, but when I checked on him he was still awake. I don't know how he knew, but 2 1/2 hours after he was put down for a nap he got up. It's like he knew he had laid in there long enough. I don't mind that he didn't take a nap because he seems to be in an ok mood (right now), but it's just annoying that they have to practice during nap time. Like Paul said though...if he was tired enough he would have gone to sleep anyway.

Well, off to take a shower and then go to the high school football game. I am really craving nachos and cheese so I may have to get some. Supper will be later, so I'll need a snack! :-)

Thursday, September 17, 2009

Great day!

Wow, it's been over a week since I last posted something. I'm surprised a couple certain people haven't hollered about that. :-)

I started going to a Bible study this week that will meet every Tuesday. It is a study on motherhood and there are older and younger women in the study. I think it will be good, but I will have to take some things with a grain of salt. It will just be nice to be with other ladies and no kids. A couple other ladies are pregnant also so we were able to talk about that too.

I spent this morning with Barb, my pastor's wife, and her daughter Annie. We met about 10:30 at the mall at Barnes & Nobles. We got coffee at Starbucks and then let the kids play at the train table. They had a good time playing and Grace had a good time unloading the books off the shelves around us. Barb and I were so into talking that at one point I realized Grace was acting hungry so I looked to see what time it was and it was 11:53! I couldn't believe it was almost noon. So we let the kids play a little longer (actually I think we just kept talking). So it was about 12:30 and we decided we needed to go get something to eat. Barb had some coupons in her car for Burger King so we went there. It was a good time and the kids all behaved very well so we were able to talk a lot. It is so great having her around.

We have a lot of health issues going on in the church right now. It is very hard because the people are very open to letting us know what is really happening. Then all the sudden we realize they are not doing well at all. Barb and I are both wanting to help where we can, as in making meals, etc., so we are trying to figure out what each one really needs.

The kids are now in the same room. They are doing very well at night, but nap times weren't working out so I set up the pack 'n' play in the other room and have been putting Grace in there. It is working a lot better. We will just have to see what we have to do when the baby comes.

I have been doing well with spending time in God's Word each day. I started Genesis 1 on September 9 and here it is the 17th and I haven't missed a day. I think it helps having a piece of paper that I am keeping track on and also having Paul reading it too and keeping each other accountable. Now for the meals, house cleaning and the other things on my purpose statement...I am still working on those. I guess one thing at a time.

Well, that's all for now. Both kids are asleep and Michael will probably be up soon so I should lay down before he gets up.

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

Real quick

Just real quick...I was checking my e-mail last night before going to bed and as I turned away from the computer and went to get ready for bed I saw a book laying on the floor. It has been one of Michael's favorite books and is now one of Grace's favorites. So, I am reading it all the time. As I turned and saw it laying on the floor I started reciting the book from memory. It struck me all of a sudden that I knew this book by heart, but I can't even remember Psalm 23 anymore. I haven't had to recite Psalm 23 in a long time and I have forgotten the order of it. Sure I could probably patch it together here and there and come close, but this book of the kids' I know every word. It really hit me that I don't know the Bible as well as I should.

I had been thinking lately about reading the Bible straight through in a year. I have never done it before, but have read and been told it is something good to do. I figure what better way to get to know God than to read his Word daily. I looked up programs to help me know what to read every day. I found them, but of course they all start on January 1st. Well, I don't really want to wait till then. So, I e-mailed my pastor (thinking he would get back to me pretty quick) and asked if he thought I should start with the date I was at or start on Jan 1st reading and adjust it. He said he thought I should start on Jan 1st. So, I printed off the reading guide and converted it to a spreadsheet with the date starting today. That way I could easily tell what I was supposed to read each day. Then tonight I told Paul what I had done and that I was planning to do this reading. He said he had been thinking about doing it too so thought we could both read it separately and keep each other accountable. It will also give us something to talk about. He said he probably would have started with the date for today though and just read to the end of the year and then started over in Jan. Oh well, I guess we will just start in Genesis now and then again in Jan. I can't wait to see how God uses this in our lives. I really hope we are strong enough to keep each other accountable. I think it will be really good for us.

Well, off to shower and read and then go to bed. Tomorrow's another day. Oh, both kids are acting like they are sick now. Runny noses and coughs. A little warm like a small fever. I think Michael may be getting what Paul has had, but Grace's may just be teething. We'll see.

Tuesday, September 8, 2009

Funny things Michael has said lately

Ok, so just in the last few days Michael has been saying some funny things that I had to put them here. Lately, when he's in the bath tub he wants to wash himself so we have been letting him...making sure he does it all and finishing what he doesn't get. The funny thing is when he does his toes he tries to do "This Little Piggy Went to Market"....only it comes out "this little market stayed home...this little market went wee wee wee all the way home". It is so funny.

Then he's been listening to Patch the Pirate a lot lately (we only have 2 cd's so it's the same ones over and over and over again), but now he's been walking around saying "whoo eee" (not sure how to spell that out!). It is funny because he uses it in context a lot. He will even say "whoo eee, it's hot in here".

Then he was talking on the play phone tonight and said he was talking to grandma. We don't know which grandma because when we asked he then said he was talking to Grandpa Welch. Then he said he was talking to grandma again a little later and he was telling her he didn't feel good. No idea where that came from since he's fine.

Last, as Paul was putting him to bed he said to Paul "daddy, you are sweating...you need to put a shirt on". Paul had an undershirt on, but no t-shirt. It was just too cute!

He definitely keeps us laughing. Oh wait, one more....also because of Patch the Pirate....we were sitting at the table the other night and all the sudden he says "Help, AAAHHHAAA (like tarzan) Banana Man (from one of the cd's). It was just too funny!

Monday, September 7, 2009

Realizations

James 1:2-4,
My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.
James 1:13-14
Let no one say when he is tempted, "I am tempted by God"; for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone. But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed.
James 1:17
Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and comes down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow of turning.

After the struggles I have gone through lately these are the verses that I read last night and they really hit me. As you can tell from previous posts I have had my struggles with Michael lately, which is also part of the reason I have not posted lately....I didn't want this to turn into a complaining blog. To Paul and I it seemed that Michael was really starting to push the limits and really get into the terrible two's (even though he's almost 3). It was amazing though....the other night I brought up something about disciplining Michael and said I felt like we really needed to sit down and talk out how and when we want to discipline him so we are on the same page. As we were talking about it we realized we have both been struggling with the same feelings lately. We had felt we were doing a good job at raising and disciplining Michael, but all the sudden because of what one couple said we started doubting ourselves. Now we don't feel this couple said things to make us feel this way, but they are a Christian couple that we admire and we just started listening to what they were saying and weren't really talking things through ourselves. In talking the other night though we realized what works for them may not work for us. As we talked more we also realized that Michael's not the whole problem. Yes, he is a child and he is learning to push limits, but we had changed rules and expectations that we just expected him to adapt to with no problem. We also realized it's only been 3 weeks that we have really felt this way and been frustrated with him, ourselves and each other, but it has felt like a lot longer. We realize now that we just need to work with him in a different way to help him adjust to these changes. He is still such a good boy! We also had to remind ourselves of all the people (family, friends, and strangers) that have complimented us on our parenting and disciplining to help us be encouraged. I'm not saying we are perfect parents or that we haven't made our mistakes (or won't make more), but I am saying that we have been less stressed the last couple days as we have realized we were most of the problem!

As I was reading in James last night and saw the verses I quoted above I realized that this time has been a test from God...not a temptation, but a test. He has been testing us through this trial with Michael to see how we would respond. I don't know that we responded the way He would have wanted us to (ok, so I know we didn't at first), but I think that us talking the other night was a step in the right direction. Even today when we went out to the grocery stores and the kids were tired and getting hungry, we were able to keep our cool and not get stressed.

As I read the second set of verses I quoted, I realized that God won't tempt us. It is when we are drawn away by our own desires that we are tempted.

Then the last set of verses...Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above....just made me realize that Michael and Grace are a gift from God. I need to remember this even in the times of struggles with them.

The last few days have also been a struggle because Paul hasn't been feeling good and I've started having contractions. Paul is fighting a head cold, but getting better. Having today off has helped him rest some too. The midwife is not concerned about my contractions. She says it is normal at this point, especially with the 3rd pregnancy. It just means I need to make sure I'm drinking LOTS of water and resting as much as I can. I have such a wonderful husband that is not letting me do much if he's around! For me this is good and bad...I rest, but I also feel lazy and think there is more I can do without hurting anything.

I am so thankful for my husband and my kids and I praise God for giving them all to me!