Monday, November 14, 2011
Wednesday, November 9, 2011
Alone Time for Mom by Crystal Kirgiss
All I needed this morning was a half-hour alone, thirty minutes of peace and quiet to help preserve my sanity. No mom-do-this, mom-I-need-that, mom-he-hit-me, mom-I-spilled-the-juice-on-the-couch.
Just me, a hot Calgon bath, and nothingness.
I shouldn't dream so big.
After getting the two oldest off to school, I settled the youngest in front of Barney and said, “Honey, listen closely. Your mommy is going to crack. She's losing her marbles. She's teetering on the edge of permanent personality damage. This is because she has children. Are you following me so far?”
He nodded absently while singing, “Barney is a dinosaur in our imagination....”
“Good. Now, if you want to be a good little boy, you'll sit right here and watch Barney while Mommy takes a nice, hot, quiet, peaceful, take-me-away bath. I don't want you to bother me. I want you to leave me alone. For 30 minutes, I don't want to see you or hear you. Got it?
“Good morning boys and girls....” I hear the purple wonder say.
I headed for the bathroom with my fingers crossed.
I watched the water fill the tub. I watched the mirror and window steam up. I watched the water turn blue from my bath beads. I got in.
I heard a knock on the door.
“Mom? Mom? Are you in there, Mom?”
I learned long ago that ignoring my children does not make them go away.
“Yes, I'm in here. What do you want?”
There was a long pause while the child tried to decide what he wanted.
“Um...can I have a snack?”
“You just had breakfast! Can't you wait a few minutes?”
“No, I'm dying! I need a snack right now!”
“Fine. You can have a box of raisins.”
I heard him pad off to the kitchen, listened as he pushed chairs and stools around trying to reach the raisin shelf, felt the floor vibrate when he jumped off the counter, and heard him run back to the TV room.
“Hi, Susie! Can you tell me what color the grass is....”
Knock, knock, knock.
“Mom? Mom? Are you in there, Mom?”
Sign. “Yes, I'm still in here. What do you need now?”
Pause. “Um...I need to take a bath, too.”
“Honey, can't you wait until I'm done?”
The door opened just a crack.
“No, I really need to take one now. I'm dirty.”
“You're always dirty! Since when do you care?”
The door opened all the way.
“I really need to take a bath, Mom.”
“No, you don't. Go away.”
He stood in the middle of the bathroom and started taking off his pajamas.
“I'll just get in with you and take a bath, too.”
“No! You will not get in with me and take a bath! I want to take my own bath! I want you to go away and leave me alone!” I began to sound like the three year old with whom I was arguing.
He climbed onto the edge of the tub, balancing carefully, and said, “I'll just get in with you, okay, Mom?”
I started to shriek, “No! That is not okay! I want my own bath, all by myself! I don't want to share! I want to be alone!”
He thought for a moment and said, “Okay, I'll just sit here and you can read me a book. I won't get in, Mom, until you're done.” He flashed me a knock-down charming smile.
So I spent my morning-alone-time reading “One Fish, Two Fish” to a naked three year old who sat on the edge of the tub with his chin resting on his knees, arms wrapped around his bent legs, slight smile on his face.
Why fight it? It won't be long before I have all the alone-time I want. And then I'll probably feel bad about not having any more together-time.
Tuesday, November 8, 2011
Ok, so the big news......Carleta and Danny are adopting twin boys!!!!!! They are due around December 17 (I'm due the 18th). Since they are twins we are thinking they will be coming any time. Last weekend the girls and I went down to my parents' house so we could go to the baby shower. We had such a great time. It was fun seeing all the gifts she got and all the support and encouragement she is getting. It was even more fun to go over to their house Sunday night to look at everything closer and be able to help her decide what else she needs. I love that she is asking me for advice! :-) We can't wait for Carson & Carter to arrive!!! Unfortunately, no matter when they are born I won't get to see them till Christmas (unless they make a trip up here!). ;-) It is going to be a wild Christmas though with 3 new babies and 3 older kids! Watch out grandma and grandpa cause here they come!!! LOL
Today Paul put Lydia in the toddler bed for nap time. It is the first time she is in it. So far so good. We'll see how well she sleeps though. She has also started going potty on the big potty some. We're not really pushing it, but she loves doing it. They are all just growing up so fast. Michael already has another tooth coming in so he has 2 loose ones now. Grace is becoming such a "mommy". I am hoping she is going to be a big help with the new baby....but first we have to take care of this attitude problem! :-/
The people at the church have been so welcoming and accepting. We now have two freezers full of food!!! It so awesome how they take care of us! We have started doing a family meal time and a kids' group on Wednesday nights. We are seeing more people coming for it. The ladies have been so great to me! They gave me a gift certificate for Blessings Unlimited (I may have mentioned that before...I can't remember). I finally placed my order and it arrived on the weekend while I was gone. I didn't even get a chance to open it yet! I hopefully will this afternoon.
Paul's brother, Andy, and his wife welcomed the arrival of their new baby girl this last week! She is so adorable! We've only seen pictures so far, but can't wait to meet her! I received an e-mail from Amie today with the birth story and it was so neat to see all the details of how Azalea arrived. It sounds like it was a great birth! Congratulations!
Well, I think that's all for now......now time to lay down for a little bit.